Reasons Why You Aren’t Getting Any

One of the benefits of having a long-term relationship with someone is the casual sex that comes with it. No one wants to be in a boring relationship where you just sit back and play board games all night long. Sex is like the icing on the cake for most men and is a very important part of a commitment to another person. Some women make it a habit of withholding sex from their partners, and others do it only under some specific circumstance.  We see this strategy as a cruel and unfair way to send a message to us. Obviously there’s a difference between a woman withholding sex, and a woman who doesn’t want to have sex. Make sure you know the difference before you assume that one of the reasons I’m going to post next is the reason you aren’t getting any.

Number 1 reason…

She’s PISSED- There is no better way to tell you to go F*#$ yourself than saying “Nope, I’m not in the mood tonight.”….or the next night, and the next night, and so on. Some women believe this is the perfect punishment so if you’ve been pissing off your lady lately, this can definitely be the reason why she isn’t as frisky anymore. The last thing a woman wants to do when she’s feeling any kind of REAL negative emotion, whether it’s sad, mad, stressed, annoyed, worn out, is get busy. And I stress the word “real” before negative emotion because I’m referring to a woman who is really angry, sad, or stressed. Not one who is feeling a tiny bit upset at you and thinks the best way to resolve problems is “kiss and makeup”. If you’re in a situation where angry, violent, pull out the whips kind of sex will make you guys both happy, then good for you. You obviously don’t have much of a problem. The best and only solution to a “she’s pissed” problem is to figure out why, and fix it. Get ready to express some feelings if you ever want things to go back to normal.

Dance Little Puppet- If you don’t get the previous phrase, you will in a minute. Ever hear something like…”If you want this than you’re gonna start doing this”. Women know they have the upper hand when it comes to sex, which is why they can use it against us for control. Withholding sex is a key strategy to obtain power or control in a relationship. I’d say about 5% of the male population is in control of their sex life, while the other 95% bows down to the almighty female. Situations like this arise because the woman either wants to feel she’s in control in bed, or she feels you have too much control in other aspects of the relationship, so she is doing what she feels is best to take back some of that control. No one said women were dumb. I have two solutions for you if you feel this is your problem. If you are a power-hungry control freak, give her some slack and let her dictate the relationship for a bit and learn to listen and do what she asks. If you don’t, don’t expect to get laid. Another good solution is to compliment her sexual abilities. Let her know that you like what she’s doing, and how good she is at it. This may seem like it’s counterintuitive, but by letting her know how much you appreciate her skills in bed, she will no longer feel the need to withhold sex from you because she will want to keep performing for you. It’s sort of a form of reverse psychology.

The Bull is Really a Calf- Every guy thinks he’s Hercules of the bedroom and that every woman will come begging for his seed. Thinks is the key word in that sentence. Sometimes you just suck, and she gets bored. Do you enjoy having sex with a dead fish who just lies there all the time? I don’t think so. If you’re searching for any other reason she isn’t giving it up and you can’t find one, then this might be it. Some women will be too shy and embarrassed to bring up your poor performance in bed so this is one you might have to figure out for yourself, and I suggest you figure it out fast. My first suggestion here is to get on Google and read, read, read until you acquire so much information about sex that your head spins. Then unleash your new knowledge next time in the bedroom. A last resort in this situation would be to talk to her about what you can do to be better. This can be embarrassing, but extremely helpful so put your ego aside.

She’s a Tease- This is like a code red problem for most guys. At least once in your lifetime, you’ll meet a girl who’s a tease, and who loves every minute of it. Some girls just like to play games when it comes to bed. They will get you all worked up for nothing, and i mean NOTHING. Women do this because men let them get away with it. We sometimes fall under the illusion that she’s only teasing for a little, and eventually I’ll get what I’m looking for. Well sometimes, that isn’t the case and you have to do something about it. The best way to cope with this problem is to open your mouth and talk about it. Express that you don’t feel comfortable with her teasing you all of the time and that you’d like to receive some type of “reward” every once in a while.

She’s Cheating- This is the hardest reason to face. I think most guys would rather be dealing with the “The Bull is Really a Calf” problem than know their girlfriend is kicking them out of bed because she’d rather have some other guy in it. If this is the case, then you have bigger problems than lack of sex in your relationship. If you suspect she’s cheating (lack of sex doesn’t ALWAYS mean she’s cheating, remember that) confront her with your suspicions calmly and allow her to explain herself before you jump to conclusions. Or hire a SWAT team to follow her everywhere she goes. Just kidding. But if you do find out she’s cheating, you’ll have to decide if you want to work on things or not.

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